Secret Language which Leaders use: Unlock a Leader in you

Secret Language which Leaders use: Unlock a Leader in you

The only safe ship in a storm is leadership

-Faye Wattleton

A few months ago I had attended a business conference in Bangalore. I was interacting with a few business owners and the moment I speak or listen to a person, within a few minutes I will get to know whether that person is a leader or not. In fact, research in the USA also mentions the same. Great leaders will impact a person within a few minutes of conversation.

I always wondered

What is the secret behind it?

Are there any secrets or techniques, which leaders follow?

Is there a secret language of leaders?

If there is a secret language of leaders can I also learn it and make an impact on others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more.

I always pondered over these questions. Trying to find answers, I started researching leaders and this is how I ended up writing this blog “The Secret Language of leaders”. Today I would love to share a few tips and tricks, which leaders use to make an everlasting impression.

“Secret Language of leaders”

1) Choice of Words

Leaders are concise. Leaders are excellent at handpicking the right words at the right time. Next time when you are on stage be specific, concrete, and evocative.  Make sure your words convey

  • Attitude 
  • Respect
  • Trust 
  • Responsibility
  • Accountability

For example: 

While a leader disagrees or has a better point to say, they never directly take your suggestions and toss them out of the window, In fact, they listen to you carefully and say  

“ I agree with you say but wouldn’t it be better that _______________  “

Leaders make sure they acknowledge what you say but also decline in a respectful way.

In a meeting room 

Non-leader speaks  “ Each and every one of you should find a solution for this “

The leader speaks “ Let us work together and find a solution “

2) Asyndeton

Leaders especially while delivering a speech use Asyndeton.

So, What is Asyndeton?

Asyndeton is a writing or a speech crafting style where conjunctions are excluded in a series of words, phrases or clauses. Asyndeton can be an effective tool when writing to create a more concise, dramatic effect. It can be used to quicken the pace or emphasize a point.

For example

  • “…that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival and the success of liberty.” – John F. Kennedy
  • “We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be,” – Winston Churchill
  • “Now as an engineer, a planner, a businessman, I see clearly the value to our nation of a strong system of free enterprise based on increased productivity and adequate wages.” – Jimmy Carter
  • “Duty, Honor, Country: Those three hallowed words reverently dictate what you ought to be, what you can be, what you will be. They are your rallying points: to build courage when courage seems to fail; to regain faith when there seems to be little cause for faith; to create hope when hope becomes forlorn.” – General Douglas MacArthur
  • Julius Caesar leaving out the word “and” between the sentences

 “I came. I saw. I conquered” asserts the strength of his victory.

  • Cold; tempest; wild beasts in the forest. 

3) Magic of three or a Tricolon

What is a tricolon?

Tricolon or rule of three is a general principle than a rhetorical technique, and it is very effective. The human brain tends to remember, absorb or retain while anything is conveyed 3 times.

It is well established that we humans can only hold a small amount of information in short term, or ‘active,’ memory. The number of items we can easily recall in short-term memory is close to just three or four “chunks”. 

  • Government of the people, by the people, for the people” … President Abraham Lincoln
  • Never in the history of human endeavor has so much been owed by so many to so few” … Sir Winston Churchill
  • Veni, vidi, vinci” … Julius Caesar
  • Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I may remember. Involve me and I will learn” – Benjamin Franklin
  • The few, the proud, the Marines” – advertising slogan, United States Marine Corps

4) Parallelism 

What is Parallelism?

Parallelism in rhetoric is used to persuade, motivate, and/or evoke emotional responses in an audience and is often used in speeches. The balance between clauses or phrases makes complex thoughts easier to process while holding the reader’s or listener’s attention. The balance in importance is also an essential element; each phrase or idea should be as important as its counterpart.

  • “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character. I have a dream today.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • “My fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” -John F. Kennedy
  • “I don’t want to live on in my work. I want to live on in my apartment.” -Woody Allen
  • “Today’s students can put dope in their veins or hope in their brains. If they can conceive it and believe it, they can achieve it. They must know it is not their aptitude but their attitude that will determine their altitude.” -Jesse Jackson
  • “For the end of a theoretical science is truth, but the end of a practical science is performance.” -Aristotle
  • “My fellow citizens: I stand here today humbled by the task before us, grateful for the trust you have bestowed, mindful of the sacrifices borne by our ancestors.” -Barack Obama
  • To be not to be, 
  • We are working together not against each other 

5) Metaphor 

Metaphor is a powerful tool that is used to capture the audience attention. A metaphor (from the Greek metaphorá) is a figure of speech that directly compares one thing to another for rhetorical effect

Metaphors can evoke powerful images and connections in a reader’s mind. 


6) Sound writing

Great leaders also use the technique of sound writing. They craft their speech and select words based on how they sound while delivering. Basically, sound writing is a technique where we can balance the sentence by the way it sounds and it’s appealing for listeners.

For example:

  • This pain, I cannot explain
  • I sat on a rock with shock
  • I watched the movie nun hoping it would be fun

Must Read:  Sound writing: Secret technique to take your speech writing format from good to GREAT

7) Body language

Leaders will have magnetism towards them the moment they enter the room. Body language of leaders is a huge topic. Click here for a detailed explanation. For now, this video will give you a brief understanding of it.

MUST READ: Public speaking secrets: Body Language the Language of great speakers

8) Storytelling techniques

Great leaders use storytelling techniques to connect with others on a deeper level.

Must Read:

Step by Step guide to public speaking, storytelling secrets and leadership secrets

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Note: This blog is not a bible for public speaking. These steps or techniques are most widely used by creative speakers. If you have your own process which you follow, do share it with us in our comment section. If you have any queries or thoughts to share, do leave a comment below.

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